Will Boy Butter make boys melt?

Paul Barber has the greatest job title: he’s a Certified Sexological Bodyworker – one part massage therapist, one part psychologist. “It’s about going to a safe place and having an experience that you’ve always wanted to do, or working on an issue,” he explains. “One day last week, for example, I had two clients, both married men, who wanted to explore their butts.” Obviously, he says, “Whatever lube I’m using is important.”

Paul is serious about his work, so why does his new favourite lube look like a joke? Boy Butter is a creamy, oil-based lube in a friendly yellow plastic tub. Paul first spotted it in New York, recalling, “It was so limited, the boys in Chelsea would drop to their knees for a dab of your Boy Butter!”

“It remains slicker longer,” Paul explains, as he takes a small dab and begins rubbing it in the crook of his elbow. “It’s not condom-compatible,” he warns, “but I tend to use vinyl gloves anyway. I’m big into ass work, where you’re not fucking but you’re doing anything else from external pleasure to fisting… The thing I like about Boy Butter is that I don’t have to stop to reconstitute it. It actually melts a bit with the heat and becomes even slicker.” Still rubbing his arm, he says, “If you do this to the butt for 15 or 20 minutes, your bottom will just be in bliss!” He adds, “I don’t know how long I’ve been going but I haven’t lost much of the texture. It’s not getting tacky the way a watersoluble lube gets.”

These results are exactly what 28-year-old Eyal Feldman hoped for when he created Boy Butter. “People think it’s a novelty item and they’re surprised when they find out it’s a really good lubricant,” he says, “It makes sense that a massage therapist would like it since it’s mostly coconut oil, which is what a lot of massage oils are made from. We took vegetable oils and mixed them with organic silicone.”

He says the name “Boy Butter” was “just a euphemism my friends and I would use for ‘cum,’ and I always thought it would be really cute as a good name for a lubricant with personality… We have a water-based version coming out called ‘I Can’t Believe It’s Not Boy Butter!’” Eyal had complete faith in his humorous concept: “I’m openly gay and I know what gay men like. Boy Butter is irresistibly cute.”

“I love the name!” agrees Paul. “We all have a boy within us, right? It appeals to all of us, and it sounds playful to me. Isn’t that part of the energy we want to bring into any kind of relationship – that playfulness, that spontaneity?” He laughs and says, “I’m selective of when I use it. It’s like, ‘Mmmm… that butt calls for Boy Butter!’”

Boy Butter is now available in Canada at Priape and Northbound Leather for $24. See www.boybutterlubes.com for details. Find out more about Paul Barber’s work at www.torontobodyworker.com.

scott dagostino